Parenting, a path no one is ever really ready for but with lots of trial and errors, sometimes you get it right. Then there’s the “extra” parenting some of us get when our child is born. Children who are given to us with special needs. My “extra” parenting involves learning right along with my son who is Autistic.
There are no rules on what’s right or wrong either but what I’ve learned from parenting him, more often than not, you get big “wins”!
The 11 wins to parenting my son
- He teaches me more than I’ll ever teach him
I don’t think this one needs any explaining. Parents who have a child or children with special needs learn something new every day.
- There is consistency in routines. It’s okay to let him set the pace.
That’s right, I was never the one to run a little late but with him, I don’t feel bad at all.
- I know him best and not concerned with what others say.
I know him when he is with me. I can’t recall the last time he wasn’t (besides school and going to Grandma and Granpa’s)
- You can say “no” to doctors.
Suggestions always welcomed but you know your kid best. It’s okay to say “Thank you, but no thank you!”
- Trust your gut
It gets easier to recognize how you’re body reacts when you know something is wrong.
- It gets lonely
It truly is but when you meet someone who “gets it” HALLELUJAH!
- Grieving losses is nothing, celebrating triumphs is everything
- Comparing won’t help anyone.
Stop it and save yourself some grief. Every child is different and unique to their own.
- You need a sense of humor.
I absolutely love the moments of me, on the verge of breaking point, and then turning to hysterical laughter.
- A milestone is not just a milestone
Absolutely! It’s not always A-B-C’s. It’s okay to be X-U-V and then even P-O-M.
- I am an Army for him!
I’m an advocate, educator, therapist and specialist in parenting my amazing son.
I cry…all the time! I cry on the frustration, exhaustion, successes, good days, joys, and terrible days. I cry for all of them!
You’ll see things never imagined. The hardest are the stares, ignorance, rudeness, and discrimination. At the end of the day, you hold onto the miracles you get to witness.
I may a lose a little some days but He “wins” every single day. For that I am grateful.
He is my art in everything!
#ThisIsUS #Building #Acceptance
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Parenting definitely is one of the hardest jobs there is, and I can’t imagine the extra pressures of having children with special needs. You’re doing a great job 🙂
Thanks so much, Elizabeth!
Thank for you sharing it! I am sure people would love to know more about that issue and feel less scared it might happen to their family. Autism isn’t easy but is manageable at sort
Yes, I agree Lyosha! Thanks for reading.
This is so inspiring, and absolutely necessary to have! Great tips that should be remembered by all
Thanks so much!
This article is wonderful. My son has autism and I can relate to everything.
Glad you can relate, thanks for reading!
Every child is different so it is also different parenting strategy will be applicable to them. This is really helpful tips and suggestion. Being a parent is really challenging and fulfilling at the same time.
I definitely agree, Angela! Thanks for reading.
Thank for you sharing this! I’ve worked with many children with Autism and I can relate to these wins.
Awesome, thanks so much for reading!
I have several relatives that are on the autistim scale. The struggle is real.
Struggling with wins! 🙏🏻